Marriage....

Marriage...what a joke. Let me start from the beginning of my thought process so you are able to follow my line of thinking with me.

Marriage appears to be defined for many as a union between a man and woman in the eyes of God. Biblical scripture shows that in creating mankind in his own image God made the decision to create two groups of humans, male and female. (Genesis 1:26-28). Many who align themselves with an organized religion will argue that marriage is more then a tradition. Marriage was created for specific purposes, fitting specific functions and laws. What laws? The laws of their creator, the laws governing the universe. They feel that if these laws are broken that the consequences of such will result with unhappiness and dissatisfaction of life.

"God created sexual attraction, to draw a man and a woman into a love relationship. He created marriage—a binding covenant relationship with prescribed, God-ordained roles (e.g. Genesis 2:18, 21-25; Ephesians 5:29-33; 1 Timothy 5:8), and gave laws confining the use of sex to that relationship (e.g. Exodus 20:14, 17). He intended this covenant relationship to bring stability into our lives, to teach us faithfulness and loyalty, and to give each mate the opportunity to learn to live unselfishly with another person, different from himself or herself, as a harmonious team." Why Same-Sex Marriage Will Always Be Illegal, by Joel Hilliker.

I understand that from this perspective why people would feel uncomfortable with the union of a homosexual couple. That said, I would like to point out that according to their own faith it is not their place to judge. That we all, according to their beliefs will have to face our maker on judgment day. No one is wanting to force anyone to marry a couple they do not believe should be married, but on the same token why shouldn’t these couple be allowed to be wed?

Same sex attraction has been documented long into history. We can see same sex attraction in mother nature. For that matter there is those that are asexual in nature. Does Jim and John’s marriage change the marriage I have? No, it does not.

I have had the argument pointed out to me that marriages are for family growth and reproduction. In turn I would like to point out that our world is over populated, and any capable couple who love children can raise children. These children do not have to biological, they can be adopted. Many families have adopted children, biological children, or a combination of the two.

I remember being very little and hearing my stepfather make a comment about a gay person. I asked my mom what gay meant. She said it was a person who like someone of the same sex. I asked her if she would still love me if I was gay, she said of course.

To me I learned two things with this conversation, 1)some people are scared of what they do not understand and 2)my mom would love me no matter what so it did not matter what those scared people thought of me.

As a person who is openly attracted to both sexes, I have never questioned whether or not this was a choice or instinct. If it were a choice I would have asked myself do I really feel attracted to this other woman or am I just choosing to be? Sounds silly to me. Being attracted to someone for me, is being attracted to desired qualities. Intelligence, compassion, eyes, height, body build, voice, just to name a few. One attraction alone may not be a sexual attraction, such as voice for example. However, on the same token combine that with another and it could lead to a sexual attraction.

I am a firm believer on the fact you cannot choose who you are attracted to, that is a natural feeling and your body will tell you who you are attracted to. Raised heart beat, flushed cheeks, stuttering, raised body temperature, just to name a few.

Even in the animal kingdom there are documented studies of species that have same sex pairs.

The arguements against same sex marriage all appear to boil down to the same thing-religion. I find this to be a weak argument since we are suppose to have the freedom of religion in this country. Embodded in that freedom of religion, I should have the freedom from religion. My religion, my faith, does not include a moral compass on marriage being strictly between a man and a woman. Why should my faith be put aside for your faith?

I am not really getting to a point on this subject tonight. I am just rambling now, realizing this I will finish with a simple thought.

Live and let live.